Fertility: Supplements and rude doctors
Okay, so as most of you know I have been on what seems to be a forever fertility journey. Those of you who just discovered my awesome blog my husband and I have been trying to conceive(TTC) for 5 years now. I wanted to share a bit of what I have been going through.
So first off I am 5’5 and about 270lbs. Yes, I am over weight. When I go to the doctor’s office I am off the charts. I personally feel like their charts are unrealistic. I say this because if any of you have lived or grew up in Hawai’i, there are a lot of big people. Our diets may not be the best, but it is what it is. Anyways I have been battling with my weight for many years. Although I seem to carry my weight well when I step on the scale I am that heavy. This isn’t a weight loss post so I’ll move on to why my weight plays a role.
I have been to 4 different doctors in Hawai’i over the years. I work up the courage to step foot into that doctor’s office and tell the doctor I have been wanting to get pregnant. Some of you know how this feels, it’s scary. Those of you who don’t, It feels like stage fright for me. I feel judged the moment I walk in the door just to take my blood pressure (which ends up being high because I am so anxious). Then they tell you to get naked and use the paper gown that feels like the size of a damn wash cloth to cover yourself. So I sit there trying to calm my nerves. Then the doctor walks in. I read his body language and the way he greets me. I get a sense of what kind of doctor he is. Whether I feel comfortable or not I am sort of pushed into a corner and just have to deal with it.
He then asks me what brings me to this visit today. I think about lying and saying I am here for a routine visit but then I think about all the stress I just had and I tell him I’m here for a fertility work up. So I am already beaten down by all the judgment looks I got walking in and taking my vitals and weight. At this point, I feel as small as a mouse. Then the doctor opens his mouth and says “You know what the first thing I noticed when I walked in here?” I was like um “what?” He then says ” The blackish color at the crease of your neck indicates you are borderline diabetic”. I have worked in the hospital for a few years and yes I know this he was a little right that was a sign. But I haven’t done labs so he wouldn’t know for sure until then, AND how rude to say it like that.
So he goes on to say that he feels it wouldn’t be safe for me to get pregnant because I am over weight and he recommends that I should NOT try to get pregnant. Then says but, I will run the tests if you want me to (which was out of obligation). Seriously he said it just like this. At this point, I had tears in my eyes and tried to fake that smile and prayed for those tears not to fall. I was so broken and felt so damn disgusted. I felt like the size of an ant. Then I had to lay there naked so he could poke around in my vag and do testing. How embarrassing!. I did indeed make him order the fertility testing and guess what? My labs were perfect!
As a plus size woman TTC(trying to conceive) it is like this everytime I walk into the doctor’s office. I have skinny healthy friends and they all push me to get tested blah blah blah but they don’t know how it feels to walk in there and be judged by literally EVERYONE. All of the doctors I have been to have been this way this one, in particular, was my worse. I am not an idiot I do know the risks of being pregnant at this size is dangerous and unhealthy. But seriously I have seen bigger women get pregnant and more than once. As a doctor in Hawai’i, I would think he would have a little more compassion. What was he trying to do? scare me skinny? well, im still sitting here at 270lbs so that didn’t work. I have gone as far as getting ultrasounds to see if I have blockages etc. So far both me and Randal are perfectly fine.
Over the years I have been trying every home remedy under the sun. I have lost weight in the past 30-40 lbs, ate healthier which I continue to try to stick to, exercise (which has room for improvement),progesterone cream,pre-seed, sex every other day, acupuncture,prayer, ovulation tests, prenatal’s, period and ovulation tracker(which I still use), and Fairhavenen supplements.
I am currently taking the fairhaven supplements. I never gave them a full chance in the past. In the past I have taken fertilAid for almost a month then I would stop. I tried fertileCM by itself for almost a month then stopped. No success of course with anything.
I do have some months that I ovulate really late or not at all (3 or so times a year i dont ovulate at all). My cycle ranges from 33 days(on a normal month for me) to 60+ days. I do blame this on my weight. Or my weight at the time. I noticed if I dont watch my weight and it shoots up over 280lbs my body doesnt function well. So I did more research on the Fairhaven supplements. I am now taking FerilAid, fertilCM, OvaBoost, and Myo-Inositol.
- Myo-Inositol is for those who have PCOS(polycystic ovarian syndrome).I have not been diagnosed with that but I am borderline. This supplement is supposed to help regulate your cycle and get your hormones to balance. It says it can also be taken by men. I take half the recommended dose because I noticed when I take the full dose I get very fatigued. My last cycle was shortened by 4 days so I call that a win. Some of the side effects I have been having is a tiny bit fatigue even with the half dose. My breasts have been tender almost throughout my cycle. I did notice I have been losing weight from these pills, which I have read is common.
- OvaBoost supplement supports egg quality and ovarian function and promotes healthy ovulatory cycle. I suggest taking this one at night because it also has Myo-Instinol and melatonin. I started off taking these during the day and had to take a nap.
- FertileCm is designed to promote fertile quality cervical mucus and help to support uterine lining. I am not going to go too much in detail with this one but I did notice a little bit of a difference.
- FertilAid is pretty much a prenatal vitamin. I haven’t noticed anything different while taking this.
I take all of these supplement at one time usually at night. It’s a lot of pills (12) I know crazy. I have high hopes that with this pill combination its a perfect baby cocktail. Any of you tried these supplements together? Did you fall pregnant? I would love to hear your story in the comments below :).
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